“Get married,” they say. But is it for everyone? What if your apathy towards marriage is borne out of reasons you will regret later?
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“Your biological clock is ticking.”
“Your mates are married/marrying, and you’re not getting any younger.”
“Let me introduce you to someone.”
“What are you waiting for? We want to eat rice very soon o! Please do fast.”
Yeah, weddings occur a lot every year. But let’s face it, the journey to the aisle isn’t so easy for everyone. Being a lady in Nigeria, first of all, gives you a point down. Having overprotective parents who watch your every move gives you one lesser point.
Yet now, you’re in the university; of course, it’s time to mingle. And eventually find that man you’ll be settling for— scratch that, settling down with. But unfortunately, all those years at home made you socially anxious and introverted. You don’t want anything to do with relationships and only want to get your degree and further your career.
Then, one day, Kunle comes by. He isn’t the finest, you know? But he resonates with you in some way. He understands you don’t love hanging out with the male gender. Hence, he tries to take things slow with you. First, he starts wooing you with poems. Then, he makes those little gestures like checking up on you when you skipped classes.
Eventually, your emotions reach the threshold, and you fall in love. Or whatever those feelings are that just have you looking forward to his calls and messages. Fast-forward to more wooing and succumbing; you’re in a 3-year relationship. And graduation is approaching. Mind you, you and Kunle had plans. You were going to have seven kids and raise all of them abroad.
Then, one fateful day, you find out there was a third wheel in your serious relationship all along. You had been demoted to the position of a side chick. You lose hope in love and swear you will never get married. Marriage isn’t for everyone, right?
After the 1-year mark, the point at which your broken heart learns to move on, there comes these from all quarters:
“Your biological clock is ticking.”
“Your mates are married/marrying, and you’re not getting any younger.”
“Let me introduce you to someone.”
“What are you waiting for? We want to eat rice very soon o! Please do fast.”
Deep down, you know you always wanted a family of your own. Kunle, for you, was just a chapter in your story and not the whole book.
Let me tell you the bitter truth: Kunle has moved on, and he will have a family of his own. The last thing you want is to be a lonely woman with regrets.
Heartbreaks happen, and sadly, people change; don’t allow them to change the course of your destiny. Sade, it’s time to move on for real this time.
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