Opinion on Separation: What X Made Me See

Hola! Cómo estuvo tu día?🙋🏽‍♂️

Well, I hope it was as boring and eventless as mine. I was just thinking of something and I thought I should share it with you. Yes, you. After reading this, maybe, maybe I would have been able to brighten up your day a little. If it doesn’t, then I am sorry, you might need…

So, let me tell you this short story.

This is the tale of a young man who has been my roommate for the past 2 years, a handsome fellow he is. Talented in everything, God has never created anyone more dexterous in every field from photography to cooking, to video editing, to music (yeah he sings), or more appropriately, he does voiceovers. Quick confession, if I have ever called you to sing a happy birthday🎂 song, that wasn’t me, it was X. He does those for me. I didn’t name him “X” after the popular algebraic variable, I did that because he’s “Xtremely annoying.”🤦🏾‍♂️

Oh hey! We’re talking about SEPARATION today. I didn’t introduce it formally, but duh, you read the topic, didn’t you? See you scrolling up to check the topic again. We are definitely not discussing “Nuclear Fission”, let’s leave the brainy stuff in the lecture theatres. just so you know, we are also not tilting to the mushy-gushy relationship part of the spectrum, that’s so cliché. We might delve into Jon Bellion’s “Separation” album along the way though. Let’s see how it goes.

So what made me call specially-gifted X annoying? Despite being very kind and jovial, X has zero regards for boundaries. Imagine someone who randomly slaps you and runs away, sleeps on your bed and messes up your stuff, never apologizes when he is wrong, sets about 10 different exasperating alarms each night, and never wakes up to any of them. Yes, that’s the perfect description of my darling X. Despite all these, we all existed in love and harmony, our intermittent rows weren’t enough to pull us apart.

Today, X left us finally. No, he didn’t pass away. The session has ended and we all have to move on with our lives. I watched as he packed, we all did. He could have stayed a few more days with us, we still had time to spare but he seemed so much in a hurry to go home. To leave us. Had our incessant bickering and complaints been eating him up silently? He had never been someone who shared his feelings much.

Watching him pack made me realize how much I would miss this lanky fellow. The time I screamed out my lungs for him to turn off his alarm(s); the times I’d return his slaps and we would chase each other around the room, the times he would try to make a point and the whole room would scream him down (but to be honest, you all can be discussing politics and X will just say “the sky is made of sand” or some other unrelated stuff). Thinking of all these now, all this stuff was what made him unique; watching him go made me realize that.

As much as separation in all spheres can come with some degree of friction and hurt, it makes us see things in an entirely different light.

As Khalil Gibran once said,

“ever has it been that love friendship🙄 knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.”

I realized how much I cherished X when he left, and to a large extent, that’s a good thing. I honestly don’t feel separation should be frowned upon and receive so much aversion as it does from the public.

Maybe some things are not meant to last forever, maybe it was designed so you would be more appreciative, or maybe, like unclogging a drain, separation is meant to give you freedom. Whichever the case is, just savour the memories made, pick up your baggage and move on.

It turned out X left early so he could make the journey with a crush😂😂 (we all know it will not work out, breakfast loading). This will not be the end of our story though, Great Ife is a small place and we also have a Whatsapp group. Will we stop attacking X whenever he takes our conversations off the road into the ditch? Definitely NO! Will our friendship stop because we no longer inhabit the same geographical location? Hell NO! I realized how much I cherish and admire X, and separation gave me that, try separation today, something might be lurking in the shadows🤷🏽‍♂️.

Uhmm, on the Jon Bellion Separation Album, you can look up “Eyes to the Sky”, “Kingdom Come” and “Ungrateful Eyes”, they are literally sounds from heaven.