Is Miòfẹ́ẹ playing hard to get?
Or you’re just playing hard to get rid of?
Our story begins with you making a move on a girl named Miòfẹ́ẹ. You send her endless text messages and shower her with gifts hoping to get her attention. She declines. You switch things up a notch and she declines again. You are left wondering “how could she possibly not have fallen for me?”
Eventually, Miòfẹ́ẹ becomes the hard-hearted villain. And her name changes quickly to the Miòfẹ́ẹ-that-served-me-breakfast all because your efforts/gifts turned out not to help her grow feelings for you as you expected.
It was literally in her name all along! She doesn’t want you!
When a girl says no to you, and all you hear is “try harder”, it shows that you feel entitled to her feelings. Believing you are a catch and so everyone must have feelings for you is not the best notion to harbor.
Even if you are indeed the biggest fish in the sea (which by the way, is doubtful if you act so entitled), not everyone is going to like you. In fact, one may very well be “perfect” (minus this major character flaw of entitlement) and still not be perfect for a woman. You have to deal with it.
You can’t love someone into loving you; you may have heard that before, but let me reiterate. Of course, the hard-to-get culture used to be tied to a woman’s worth. “You can’t bend to a man’s will so quickly; they will think you are cheap” etc. But we are in 2023! “Good” people are scarce, so if someone likes you and they are serious about it, they will let you know.
Don’t go after them, sending them gift box after gift box after they’ve expressly expressed their lack of feelings for you. I’m dying of second-hand embarrassment for you if you still do that.
What happened to shame?
It is okay to feel downcast when rejected; rejection is never a nice feeling, but there are healthy ways of dealing with it instead of going around and holding grudges.
Trying harder works only when someone truly wants you but is holding back for some reason, but read the room.
Sometimes, they may be genuinely trying to get rid of you, and anyone who will make you work so hard to get their attention is probably not worth all the work anyway.
The worst thing one can do when a woman rejects them after they have tried so hard (their bad, by the way) is to go around putting her down to other people because of your pain. That, dear reader, is as dishonorable as they come, and you should desist from doing such.
The hard-to-get game has gone out of style. And whoever is still playing it at this point most likely doesn’t know what they want. So, stop chasing things (and people) that are running away from you. Know your worth and understand that NO never means “try harder.”
Miòfẹ́ẹ- A Yoruba name I made up meaning “I don’t want you.”
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This doesn’t get preached enough, I think it’s time we all stopped living in bubbles and focused on those who really like us.
Nothing could be truer. If only people can learn to accept “no” for an answer and not try to force themselves on other people, then I feel we’ld have a less chaotic world/forced friendships.
Nothing could be truer. If only people can learn to accept “no” for an answer and not try to force themselves on other people, then I feel we’ld have a less chaotic world/forced friendships.
Nothing could be truer. If only people would learn to take a “no” for an answer, then I feel this world would be less chaotic and forced friendships would be minimal.
This is so trueee!