Effective communication in every relationship is the foundation of a healthy relationship. This begs the question, “how well do we communicate?” or “Can we be better communicators?’. Whichever way you view this issue, the effort to build momentum lies with individuals in the relationship.
“Communication works for those who work at it”.
John Powell
While the bedrock of every relationship is two consenting persons, building a relationship requires more. Relationships have a higher chance of success when clearer communications are a priority. Partners would naturally have differing opinions about matters. Hence, it becomes pertinent that significant others converse in ways that will not hurt their partners.
Effective communication provides clarity and gives clear-cut directions to issues. However, to enjoy these fruits, one must give their all. You know what they say, “you can’t eat your cake and have it?” Well, you can if wisdom is applied.
Let’s have a discourse –
Effective communication emphasizes knowing when to talk when to be quiet, and how to do these two. We already established that partners are bound to disagree on issues. But how they handle those issues when they arise determines how well the relationship grows.
Here are a few ways to discuss issues without creating more problems:
Listen, Listen, and Listen
Listeners are less likely to say the wrong things. You are not even saying anything, so what could go wrong?
Learn to hear what your partner has to say. Since what you envisage is a better relationship, it is only right that you know where your significant other hurts and how you can tackle the issues. Moreso, this gives your partner an assurance that they matter. Trust me; you want them to know how much they mean to you. You may be saving yourself from an unnecessary headache.
Think before you speak
You sure want to think over your words before jumping into conversations. It is important to ensure that you do not come across as rude or condescending. Also, you want to be sure that your words are right for the occasion or to know if they are most appropriate at a later time.
Speak when you should
While it is good to listen, speaking up is just as good. Tapping from King Solomon’s wisdom, there should be a time for everything. A time to shut up and a time to speak. This saves you from hurting silently.
Putting issues that you should discuss aside won’t help. Many times, while you are holding back from speaking up, the thing you hate keeps coming up. This, unfortunately, negatively affects your relationship ever so subtly. Sometimes, people don’t just wake up one day and decide to break up. So, speak up!
Nonetheless, speaking up requires you to apply discretion and show understanding of your partner and the situation at hand.
Manage your emotions
For example, you shouldn’t speak when angry or have an important conversation when stressed out. Who says you need to make promises when you’re excited? Decide to do things with a clear head always.
Let us take a pause here for now.
But before then, the benefits of effective communication are numerous. Most importantly, the respect for your partner is strengthened. Moreso, misunderstandings are minimal, and trust is very evident. What’s more? Commitment is stronger. Ultimately, a healthy relationship is sure.
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