It is a season of love and this time, alongside the euphoria and excitement, questions raced through my mind. Seeing couples renewing their commitment and declaring their love in different ways has kept me wondering: “What is in love that makes them stay committed and never let go?” My curiosity got the better of me and I decided to interview couples in different stages of their relationships and know what it really was that made them stay committed. You would be surprised by the responses I got.
Mr. & Mrs. Isaac Oyeniyi. They have been together for 4 years – started dating in 2018, got engaged in 2019 and married in 2020. Omo! See correct planning.
“Sir and Ma, what is in your love for each other that has kept you committed?”
His view: My love for my wife is a complete package, our commitment to God is a powerful force and our commitment to each other, I can’t let go of.
Her view: The way he loves me and his passion for God. The way he drives me to do more and how he corrects me when I am wrong has made me hold on.
Motunrayo Dada and Oluwatimileyin Olatunji have been together for 13 months.
His view: First of all, our understanding is that LOVE IS A CHOICE. We also have effective communication because we talk about anything and everything, even the silliest things. We also spend time reading books on relationships. This is important for gaining knowledge, maturity and mastery in our love life. Last, but indeed the most important is God. He brought us together and we trust Him to sustain us.
Her view: A lot has kept me committed but one thing strikes most: THE WAY HE TELLS ME “I AM SORRY.” There is this thing they say about men and ego but my babe doesn’t show all this especially with me. There are days I just sit and decide I will be angry about something he did (I don’t know if I am the only woman that has this funny feeling at times), it might be something I can settle and walk away from but I won’t. The dropping of ego to apologize for his wrongs and mine is it for me.
Mr. & Mrs. Reuben have been married for 2 years, 6 months, and counting.
Her view: First, it is the fact that God is involved. We were absolutely sure from the very beginning that God approves of our union and has joined us together as husband and wife. Character wise, my husband loves God and hears from God and for that reason, I am not afraid to move with him to areas where he feels that God is leading us.
He is very understanding. He carries me along in everything (I cherish that a lot) and we don’t take decisions without each other’s consent.
“I guess women appreciate men that don’t lord over us but make us know our opinions matter.”
He loves and cherishes me and we trust each other.
He is very mindful of his home and extends his love and care to others.
His view: What I see in my wife that keeps me committed to her is that she is a child of God and a woman of integrity. She is humble and easy to live with. She can cook delicious meals. Hahahaaha!! Men and food
She is a noble woman and good counselor. I feel at rest with her.
Anonymous. They have been together for 2 years.
Her view: This question makes me short of words because I really can’t pinpoint one thing in ‘our love’ that I cannot let go of. It is everything – his looks, weird laughter, how he is always there for me, and lots more.
His view: These days, it is actually not easy to find someone that really understands you and cares for you. Only my parents and siblings know me better than her. She is always pushing me to become a better person, and she is always ready to help me in whatever way she can. I mean, what more could I ask for?
All I see is uniqueness in relationship. They all had different reasons to stay commited to their relationships.
What is in your love that makes you hold on and not let go? Share in the comment box.